How does your divorce or court prove severe mental abuse?
Why can not you go along with your child? "This word is similar to the nail of a blackboard to a person who is divorced from the social illness of narcissism (narcopas), Narcopas is like inviting the devil.
Social illness of narcissism is attractive, charismatic and charming for those who encountered during the lawsuit, but outside the court it is calculated, operated, and many times dangerous. Observers who have not been trained may know that the situation can not be hijacked or bad for parents who are immature young adults and who can not keep children first.
Do you think that judges and other court officials seem to be who you are supposed to be under the Self-Aversion Social Advisory Committee? How long have you brought you? If your judge thinks that your former partner, friend, or colleague will see that false liar, you put too much belief in the system. Many of the untrained observers are judge systems, judge officials, sadly lawyers and others working in the trial system. Narcissism is like modern Doctor Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
I remember the first thing I tried to explain to the judge in divorce cases involving narcissism social pathology. Parents sitting at my table are not absurd. I idly remember my words about how to explain things that look like impossible. It was until that moment that I found out how difficult it is to draw emotional abuses.
As you know, abusive tactics are made up of each other, reconfirmation of facts starts to sound like hunting if it is farthest from the truth. Needless to say, Narpathas lawyers are laughing against the way I'm absurdly heard.
There are no pictures of injuries. There are no police reports describing the attitudes and cooperative relationships of the parties. There is no trajectory report. There is no ER report that accurately identifies injuries and permanent effects that may be given to abused parties. nothing. I was trying to explain what I could not explain. Conflicting lawyers jumped up and down. He was hoping for my "qualitative" character, but he was trying to make him look crazy. He is expecting all the problems I raised in the same way - "Your honor, if we are going to resume a very romantic spurt between the two, come here next week And we firmly deny these accusations Women conceal husbands keys and medication Jones believes that they misplaced these items and is looking for a responsible person "When the judge offered to the court, the judge stroked the woman on the shoulder, witnessing the tissue that the court reporter brought to her.
I found a word consistent with my voice and the judge listened. I could see his eyes shining, I knew I was losing him. When I tried to find the right words to return him, I noticed time and asked if I could relax early for dinner break. Of course, he agreed.
I came back to my office. I told him, if I had not figured out something to prove that my wife was telling a lie. When I finished, he had no evidence to prove that she was mistaken and did not say where he was invited to get such evidence. While he was talking, he pulled a small note out of his pocket, turned the page, had some telephone tape records and most of the mails he sent and a few text messages But he I did not have any "court" evidence. I almost kissed him. After fighting the urge to give him a hug, I asked when he began holding a journal, he said about six months ago to split. His intestines said that he had something again. She was doing this kind of thing before. Every time I left her, she always insisted that it was his. This time he tried to prove that he was wrong. Every morning when he got a job he took down 7-8 minutes and wrote down what happened at his home the night before. As I looked at it, for each entry he recorded the days and dates. Kim, I tell you, this guy had money.
I remember his answer for this day when I saw him and asked why I did not give these items to me when I asked him at the first meeting. I reminded him that he asked if there was proof of the case. His reason? He did not think his own was the proof of the "court". When he asked me to explain the evidence he did not want to think he was stupid. We each learned something that day, and it was not what I found out in the legal book. I have never thought that I never knew what I was talking about because the client did not ask a question. The wrong presupposition sank his case since we approached.
I talked to you telling this. Do not think that the social marital spouses of narcissism are more cooperating than when she was married during divorce. He / she is not quiet away. In fact, they get worse. They do not like to lose control and they chase someone who thinks they are challenging them, including your lawyers. They become more manipulative and exploitative and can gain what they want nervously. They blame others for their problems. Because they are focused on themselves, they feel that they are often victims while teasing spouses. True Narco Pass believes that they are over the law, feeling that the rules are not applied, and notoriously that it is difficult to deal with. While narcissist's divorce, the following is common.
- Reject financial information and documents
- Refuse to negotiate
- I refuse to listen to my lawyer
- Ignore the court order
- Use a child as a horse
Because they are very competitive, narcissists love the hostile nature of the legislation and are good at manipulating them advantageously. They project all their faults to their spouses, playing the role of the victims, and accusing themselves as liars, cheating and mental instability to their spouses. It is very sensitive to frustration and damage of their spouses and Narcissists often make them believe favorably by lawyers, judges, or juries.
Narcissist judges that losing their influence over the lives of their estranged spouses is hard to accept and will try to find ways to control the former spouse even after the divorce is over. If you have a married child, this is much easier, so narcissist works over time to control her ex-spouse through child support, visit time, co-parenting decision.
In most courts, there is a lawyer who understands malignant narcissism and social personality disorder by filtering in / out of people like a cow, and in order to protect you and your child in various ways Working diligently is indispensable. Hiring a lawyer who understands NPD ensures a powerful child rearing plan and a court order without operation or a room without a swaying room. Dealing with lawyers who are not educated about personality disability is an extra battle that does not have the energy you fight. A struggling divorce is hard enough without the additional work of educating your lawyer.
If I had interviewed a former lawyer, I would be very direct and direct. I am asking them to explain the personal experience with the client who was divorced from Narcopas. This question provides a lead-in, so you can quickly decide whether the lawyer properly defends it. I will ask the situation and cases that correspond to the high conflict group, and how to specifically deal with it. A lawyer suffering from or obstructing your doubts is not a lawyer you want. Lawyers sometimes forget who they are working for.
The six questions to consult with the scheduled attorney are as follows.
- How did you deal with cases of high conflict divorce?
- Can you define social morbid tendencies and personality disorders of malignant narcissism?
- Do you think that these personality disorders are related to HCD (high conflict divorce)?
- Have you earned the case to claim "emotional / psychological abuse"?
- Are you working closely with psychologist / therapist and / or evaluators who have experienced these types of personality disorder?
- In the past trial, how did the judge understand the psychology of personality disorder and how one intentional action alone can maintain responsibility to maintain high conflict divorce? "
Ask around and if you have the opportunity, please sit in the family court for several days. Look at the various lawyers and see how they handle them in the courtroom and whether they have good relations with the judges. If you narrow your choices, please point out the question I mentioned above. If you do not know what the attorney is talking about, do not hesitate to ask. Please do not know what is in his mind. The only stupid question is a question that I can not ask. You are choosing a lawyer representing the greatest interests of your child. Choose wisely.
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