Do you usually know someone who blames others and denies personal responsibility for their problems? Do you know the person who is firm about things in the courts? Are you also refusing to welcome proposals for negotiations and mediation of disputes?
For most of us, at least one person knows such a person. Perhaps they were customers, friends, former employers, families, or former partners. There are many cases where personality often promotes conflict, not a legal issue. Let the two families experience divorce.
The story of two divorced families:
Family # 1:
Apple is considering divorce and is seeking a lawyer from lawyers. Apple wishes to share with lawyers, minimize costs, and resolve conflicts to maintain a healthy relationship with former spouses and children. Apple 's attorneys recommend the process of joint divorce with the help of mental health experts and financial experts.
There are accounts of home, two young children, retirees. Apple has been quite successful and the annual salary is $ 150,000.00. Through joint dispute settlement, parents agreed that Apple will provide some support to Mr. Apple, as parents have been proved the need for financial support and Apple plans to provide parenting support to their parents. In addition, while Mrs. Apple wants to rent an apartment, Mrs. Apple remains at home. After five or six joint meetings, Apple will reach an agreement and get a total of $ 10,000.00 divorce.
Family # 2:
Mrs. Orange is furious with her husband and wants to make him pay for all the disadvantages she has suffered during his lifetime. She is seeking a lawyer to start divorce procedures. Orange families also have accounts for homes, two infants and retirees.
After several temporary complaints regarding various problems such as three-year lawsuits, detention orders, parenting plan, child support, Mrs. Orange will eventually be totally in trial with the second generation attorney. Yes, her second attorney! She was fired at the beginning as she was not fully aggressive. The court orders Orange to support spouses and to support children and to order family houses to be sold. Orange's case cost is $ 100,000.00.
So what can we learn?
Both families had similar problems and concerns. Both families used the advocate. Both divorce was a particularly emotional and stressful experience. However, one family spent one tenth of the other family divorced. why? Mrs Orange decided to pursue a highly hostile approach to divorce. Her high conflict character promoted the conflict. Her emotions were exaggerated, and her actions were often inappropriate. The minor problem was portrayed as a big struggle and she was left behind by many drama problems long afterwards. Orange made them leave. Throughout the process, she always blamed someone else for her problem.
People with conflict (HCP) occupy an important part of the lawsuit and are suitable for identifying and managing these personality types after understanding the defects of HCP. Please be aware that it may be dealing with a person of a disputed personality type and there are times when you need special skills and techniques to protect yourself, HCP etc etc.
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