Since I am constantly dealing with parental alienation tactics from my former wife who had been trying to keep my daughter away from me over the years since I got divorced, the amount of violence my parents are restraining I took notice of the dispute. I associate this new perception with a separated father and I acknowledge that I was not aware of it when I was single and there were no children. I also noticed that this violence ends with the death of parents and the arrest of others. Just recently CNN was arrested for "murder of the hunting beach Scott Dekraai of California" and was arrested in 8 murders involving his ex-wife involved in a detention fight with an 8-year-old son , "I understand how easy it is to understand and operate complaints of the system, but I can not understand killing a child or parent, or another man 's reckless murder.
Definitely, divorce is a war, especially when children are involved. You need a strategy to win and you generally need to order to do so as you can protect yourself against unfounded complaints at cost of thousands of dollars. I certainly do not recommend leaving everything in the hands of a lawyer you are the only one among dozens of clients. But your weapons are not bullets or bombs. Documents, documents, documents. Your assets are forensic investigators and forensic psychologists. The forensic investigator closely resembles a private child service agent and his or her report has a great weight in the court. Forensic investigation is also called social survey evaluation. Forensic psychologists are fully aware of the number of false accusations passing through the system and may be one of the best tools to combat accusations with unbiased findings. Their report also occupies a lot of weight in the family court. This document exists not only for the courts but also for your children. One thing is inevitable - children grow. It is easy for a parent to hurt a child's heart, but a child provided with a document as an adult saw the truth, "The truth makes you free." Your child needs to understand what you endured financially and emotionally, and that you fought for them. The ultimate goal of a hostile parent is to isolate you from your child, unfortunately he or she may achieve this because the defendant's parent has run out of money for fighting Hmm. War costs money. There is a war art called "the bell of the sun" said to be "There is no country prospering from the long war." I really do not agree with this. It depends on what you value. I certainly appreciate my daughter better than I earn money at a bank. But I understand that fighting for parents for your child is expensive and sometimes out of money. Over the past six years I have fought life savings for my daughter. Mother's accusations never seem to end.
I also endured my refusal to visit my daughter several times based on the accusation of my ex-wife. One thing I know is the truth. My ex-wife, like many others, is an expert on operating the system and the system will not punish her for false accusations. The inspector of the Child Protection Service (CPS) is very irritated when I told that "Your ex-wife is lying, but there is nothing I can do." However, the system must first be a system that protects children, so the system is easily operated. The problem lies in court law, where the family court prosecutes against "wrong information to the court" or "perjury". It is the responsibility of the local law firm (DA) to doubt a false alarm or a false certificate. However, if the DA has to prove all the lies said in the family court, there will be no time or resources to prove other crimes. Family judge judges can file a lawsuit in litigation before the suit but hesitate to do so. By submitting a complaint to a lawyer's ethical ethics committee there is actually a better chance for a lawyer or a lie representing incorrect information. However, lawyers advise customers frequently to obscure such accusations. To raise concrete accusations risks the involvement of CPS - in cases where lawyers do not want, especially when they know that accusations are false.
I believe that the child has the rights of his parents. However, forcing this right is largely left to the parent whose visitation right has been refused. Losing your child is a difficult thing. Only parents who experienced it understand what it is. When you drown economically and emotionally, a pendulum rides between anger and depression. Your thoughts may also turn from suicide to murder, but you need to keep focusing on the importance that your child and parents have both rights. Remember, you are in the war and you need to physically fit, so practice everyday. The released endorphin counteracts depression. It may be expensive, but please ask psychological evaluation of you and your child's court order or arrange for independent assessment. Do the same for other parents. In my case, the assessment was ordered by the court at the request of the mother, it is most likely that you are receiving counsel from a lawyer, and "no" includes documents certifying the need for litigation (eg police Report, CPS report) was not found. I evaluated, but it proved to be one of the best I've ever done. In the evaluation, it is understood that it is recommended that "It is advantageous to her father," that she is mistaken for her daughter, "It is impossible for this father to have a limit". The mother refused to be evaluated.
In addition to psychological evaluation, we need to ask a forensic investigation of court orders (also called social survey evaluation) or conduct independent investigation. Forensic investigations are equally expensive, but if discovery contradicts accusations, judges with some meaning will support the results of the investigation. Evaluation of social surveys may include psychological evaluation. However, this may not be enough. A false allegiance is effective because it costs very much to defend. There are times when you simply run out of money. In that case you need to document, document and document your actions. Keep a journal, start a blog, or write a self-issued book for your child. Remember that your child will become an adult seeking answers one day. Please prepare those answers.
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