I will go to the dying medical conference tomorrow. This is the theme I'd like to think about without considering what many people are talking about. For me, it was always personal. Three years after aid, I have seen more than the share of death out of two of the crisis counseling of HIV / AIDS and the poisoning community. In private practice, the number of cancer patients I treat in parallel with hospice surgery makes this problem very real for me.
I will not discuss the details about what is right or wrong. I have never made a position that the answer is very simple. That is not the case. But after many years of helping people with end of life, I encountered one truth. I can not judge the experience of another person. I am going to further promote it. I can not judge the pain of another person.
I think that many of us have been adjusted since very young times and I think that I have never actually revisited this issue again. I believe this is a trap. The world is not black and white. It's a shade of 1000 in gray. I think I knew that it was early that the client wanted to die. They were no longer able to endure the pain, and the quality of life at that time had declined. When they say that they see your eyes and kill me. What are you doing with it?
I could never find it useful to push my beliefs to someone. Especially they feel pain. Since I am a pastor, many people have been criticized for not advancing religion at that time, but my work should not be converted. My work is comforting. I believe that I will provide dignity leading to death. It can not be done with a hidden agenda.
So my plea is this. Please deviate from what you always know and reconsider. One surely life is death. Nobody wants to talk about it. Now is the time. When we have a clear head that is painless and persuasive and not cloudy, is it now when you ask yourself what your hope is when that time comes? Do you want an option? Do not you want to document them through conversations with Will and your loved ones?
Please understand that these conversations on the last day of life deprive time to solace, share, and be able to send inevitable peace. These are sacred moments. Just like life is. And if you do not have hope and want to die with dignity, there is a true belief that you must respect the hope of death even if you do not agree with it. When they say words with creators, they must respect them.
No matter which side of the fence you are, I hope this article will tell you. Ask yourself and pray about it. Please start a dialog with your loved one. What I promise is, after all, that you want to talk about love. Let them die. That is not your journey.
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