Children's aid (Discussion about pros and cons of overall system in Canada and controversies about pros and cons)

Today I would like to write about topics that affect 50% of the people of our society. I am not talking about divorce for people with children, but you may think of it for the first time. I am writing about what always comes after divorce. In divorce cases, decisions on child custody are written in writing. It can range from the only custodian to the visit of one parent, at the discretion, to the extent of receiving 50 minutes of protection between parents. This is often hotly contested, which is disappointing but the ultimate exit is what I really want to talk about today.

As soon as a custody decision is made, the judge will decide on the sum of the amounts that one of the parents should pay to the other due to the maintenance and well-being of the child concerned. Acting has two factors. The first one is a custody arrangement. Parents have common custody in the most typical arrangement. Children spend part of the time at one house and some of the time at the other house. In most cases, mothers share Lions in time, while fathers are driven to visit a second time every week. This is an agreement that focuses on as a concrete example of what will happen next. That's all about money.

There is a specific table for the student who decides how much the father will pay to the mother. There are agencies that will carry out these payments. Fathers are under these tables and the thumbs of this agency.

I would like to have some bold thoughts and observations, concrete examples for some of the tables and shares. A father who earns $ 40,000 a year and has two children is ordered to pay $ 575 a month. Besides that, the cost of school necessities and dentistry will be s7. This ranges from 100 to 200 per month. In this particular example, it keeps it at 100, even if it is always doubled. The father of the month before tax revenue is $ 3,300. Tax then slightly exceeds 900 dollars, so household income is about 2,300 dollars. After paying monthly child allowance and s7 expenses, the father has left $ 1,670.

That is a specific example. Now I am going to share my thoughts about this. There is not much disposable income at this month and age for $ 1,600 a month. If you want to rent a house, you can count on somewhere between $ 1.2 billion and $ 1,800. Food almost certainly reached 400 laps, I will make another 400 laps of car and continue on the list. You can see how your father has a clear flaw.

In most cases, the mother lives in a new partner or remarriage. My father does not really have this option. As most people are forced to live a single life, he will be forced to a single life and rent a room at someone's house. There is a strange example that he may find a sugar mother who can carry most bills, but many people can not say that this is the ideal situation.

For children living with their mothers and new partners, fathers may seem like a failing or embarrassed personality due to financial and domestic circumstances. This is not fair. It is not a balanced way that divorced children can be raised.

Now some people say that this money is needed to support children who share their time at their own home. I do not object to this. I am sure that there are many mothers who really need this money. There are also working mothers, which are taken into account by the whole system. If a mother wants to earn more money than her father, she will not gain support from her child. But if she remarried, it is often the case and her husband's husband will earn more money than the child's father. It is not taken into consideration at all and this is the place where a big gap in domestic situation arises. A mother can stay with her child at home, but her husband has a lot of income and offers everything.

Therefore, fathers can be obviously disadvantageous in many situations. There is another point I would like to make here. The child support table is fixed. Regardless of anything, everyone is the same. It is a sort of thing, except that divorce comes in as much size as the grain of sand along the coast. Every situation is different until the last one.

When your father is in a very unfair and unbalanced place, what legal form can you rely on? The honest answer is that there is nothing he can do. He may return to the court to appeal for financial difficulties, but this is almost impossible to prove, and where do you get funds to pay attorneys? He is pretty packed. A father who founds himself in this box may start thinking of an illegal way to stop a child's support. He may stop paying or quit his job. He may try to hide some income, but this is almost impossible. After all, he will always be found out, and he has to borrow a lot of money with the help of his child on the back. He can dig myself into quite a big hole. He is discouraged, just raising his hands and asking about himself.

Another question related to that is very important. What if my father got sick and I can no longer work? As a reason why he can not obtain fair income, he must go to a judge and prove his illness. If the court judges that he is not sufficiently ill to guarantee low income, they can earn income to him. Basically, I can say that he is a carpenter. The court says the carpenter earns somewhere between 40,000 and 60,000 a year. They deduct their income and are based on their child's support obligation. So, do not try to avoid the children's assistance by the father, trying to find a way to avoid it, or you can not get the income attributed to him and you can not pay the determined amount Cost

That is when a very strong agency is involved. It is called maintenance maintenance. Their duty is to ensure that all mothers who are divorced or divorced are receiving assistance from the child. They have a legal right to impose severe fines if their father has not paid. They have no meaning, no matter how complicated the case is. They have undergone a strict order to enforce the law enforced by the judges. If the father has not paid for any reason, I will start by sending a messy letter. Once the child's support is accumulated, they accumulate results.

They will take away the driver 's license. I do not know how they expect their fathers to earn income as carpenters without wheels. It really makes no sense. They remove his passport. They legally dip into his bank account without warning and take what is there. If everything fails, they legally loudly put their father in prison. This happens beyond what many people may think. By the time they reach this point, fathers may pay back support and borrow more than $ 100,000 on all penalties. According to the example above, it may take a million dollars for those who collect $ 1,600 a month.

I traveled across this country in Canada from one end to the other. I lived in the motor home once. I met several fathers along the way of maintenance enforcement. They lived in a trailer park by defeating the old trailer for reasons. They were broken and disappointed. They were also often angry. I met a man who was driving to work by a surrogate driver who puts them in a similar situation to a man driving for too many opportunities. I met a hundreds of thousands of dollars borrowers who simply dropped out of labor and society. They are basically hiding, working for cash, or depending on welfare.

So, what is the statistics? Divorced children spend 90% of their time with their mothers. Of that child, only 30% have fathers not seeing their father once a week, 15% of pregnancies. The worst and most shocking statistic is that the divorced father and divorced father have a suicide rate twice as high as the national average of married men and single men. There is also much evidence to prove that most so-called "dead fathers" can not pay the child's aid, due to illness or other justifiable reasons. This faces a well-recognized perception that all "dead fathers" in some way ignore child's choice and are out of contempt for the law.

I share clear affinity with the father I met at those trailer parks. I am divorced ten years ago. inc was not discharged to divorce paper, she was already pregnant with a newcomer. They got married shortly afterwards, she moved to the house soon and did not tell me where. I spent five months and a lot of money for private investigations to find them. Then, a serious incident of parent alienation syndrome occurred. She called a new situation for her unified family. She used a psychological way to direct her child to me. I often call myself criminals, criminals, adulteries. She called our children "dad" of her new man and let me call him "Daddy Ben." Every time I saw the kids I kept a diary of what she felt irresponsible for my child. The list may be over 100 pages.

When she moved to me, I got a lawyer soon and did everything I could be a real part of my child's life. I told myself that she wanted half an hour. And put a legal fee of $ 20,000 to maintain pressure until she finally quieted and forgave it. Once I spent half of my girls, the assistance of the children ceased, but of course there was still a large amount in the refund. This arrangement lasted 2 years while my girls were in their formation period. I saw them coming home from home and started listening to their mother's opinions as they told me. It broke my heart and saw that it was operated confusingly.

Finally, I stopped it and changed the contract to have a stable house. I was trying to put them first, and in this act was selfless. I think you may get some generosity from my ex-wife. That was the opposite. She saw it tired and jumped on it. She reduced her visit once a week from once every month to once every three months. By this time my girl was a tween and their attitude towards me was only desolated.

Then I came on a day I will never forget. My youngest daughter came for a visit with a big chunk of forehead. After suffering heavily and intensely, I learned that her father's stairway's father had put her back in her hand. I was next to myself with anger and the anger of murder. If I was thinking clearly, I would have called it child welfare, but I was not pleased at the guardianship. I heard the story that the child was taken away from home, so I do not want to add obvious fragile emotional state to the children.

So I did the best. I went to my original wife 's house and banned her fight against her husband on the previous lawn. Especially my weight was 150 pounds, so it was not a good decision. But the long-term outcome was far wiser than knocking me down. Very next day my wife got a very restrictive restraint order. I was prohibited from contacting them in every way from anywhere near the girls.

I am now four years old, I have never seen children. At first, I cried asleep overnight was routine routine. After that, I put the stint in prison. I sent a birthday card to the oldest daughter and I was imprisoned for three weeks. In the second time, I sent an email to my wife, I missed too many photos, so I asked if I wanted to send a picture. I went for another three weeks. By that time I was ruined everywhere and I spent a long time on the street life. This is only because my daughter confirmed my negative opinion.

Finally, I was enough. I called my ex, and asked if she would like her husband to adopt her child. She jumped at that opportunity. Many calls and negotiations with e-mail were done. After signing the adoption, my ex-wife did not notify me by calling maintenance execution. I have caught as much as $ 40,000. I called her again, she reminded her promise and two months later she was convinced.

When she phoned the police and informed me that I was calling her and sending an email, there was a final blow to the face. At that time, it was regarded as criminal harassment. I spent another month in prison and got a permanent criminal record. All the decades of battle plus a certain state of child withdrawal that I faced were serious. I tried suicide four times and it was said that I arrived at once and died. I have a hospital record to prove it. It began a long line of unwilling hospitalization to a mental hospital. It was hard to ingest it.

A few years later I pulled myself, found the way and tried to get away from it. I was very fortunate with the fact that the maintenance executive department did not rob my passport. I made one final decision and continued with it. I bullied my car to the airport and parked in a gas station parking lot. I abandoned it and my life in Canada flew to the Philippines.

Today, I still live in the country of this third world. I met a beautiful young lady and we got married two years ago. It was not an easy act, but as time went on things calmed down. I am still thinking about suicide, but thankfully I was able to procrastinate the impulse. I take it one day at a time. I found activity and income to keep myself and my wife and her family. I started writing, but now I have six complete manuscripts, most of which I can find in the Amazon. com. I miss my girl as crazy, but the pain went deep into somewhere in my spirit. It is sometimes coming out and requires a very conscious effort to control my behavior and behavior. I am learning and growing with this.

So I shared a detailed example of one of the "dead fathers" out of a million people. I found that the financial and practical details I provide come from personal experiences. I know what I am talking about. I am certainly feeling qualified enough to measure the subject's weight. With this confidence in the live experience, I tried to light the other side of the coin. I think that those who are considering divorce want to think twice before everyone steps on it. I am illegal in divorce, living in the Philippines where divorce is very expensive and difficult to obtain, I am seeing how our innocent divorce system is defective. I do not know what is going to happen about it, but I may start with taking lessons from foreigners who have been expelled from my hometown from where I live now.

I want to say one last thing about all this. I have suffered very much in the past 12 years, but I am an adult. Miraculously, to this day, I got up under it. I do not think this is the case of my daughter. I saw that they were crying on so many occasions. I saw that they grew tired from casual innocent and happy children into cynical teenagers. In my mind, this is the maximum of all expenses, I do not begin to compare suffering with mind. When I miss them, I know they miss me more. In addition to examining the numerous negative statistics applied to children raised without fathers, it also works to think about what battle and conflict all contributed to fragile and growing personality I guess. To be honest, this really breaks my heart. That's all I have to say about this problem. thank you for reading.