Some people are nice, others are not. I personally handle 100 divorce a year. The majority of the people who came to see me are truly sad about the fact that marriage has ended. Most are confused and injured. Some are outrageous anger.
Angry people have often found their spouse cheating or have understood that their spouse is planning to leave for a while and is using them. These people want to be even. I will explain how to do part of it here.
10. Catch them by action
As a litigation officer, I feel a certain degree of joy when I work in the courtroom. I do not investigate the witness and catch a lie and catch it. Yes, attorneys bring out all kinds of attractive arguments for traveling people up and it has its own charm, but what I really like is to catch a liar simply and easily. There is no wonderful foot work.
As an example, I had a client my husband was deceiving her. She knew it, but she did not know that she knew it. She was smart. Instead of exploding, throwing cooking, or arresting someone, she was waiting. She gathered evidence. She collected her cell phone record and credit card bill very carefully. She avoids illegal acts such as making a phone call and breaking into e-mails. Instead, I tracked the movements with my family car using GPS. A couple of weeks later, she got everything she needed, including a picture that kissed her girlfriend's fortune.
In the position of the witness, Cheetah dismissed adultery decisively. He got angry to blame his reputation in a way like me. He denied having to strip the club. He denied knowing his girlfriend. Until evidence comes up. At that time, the judge asked Cheetah's attorney if he wanted to take a break and talk about reconciliation before a perjury (leaving a covenant to the judge) comes out. My client got everything she wanted.
9. Children's change in video
I had a customer accusing her to abuse herself whenever her spouse met to exchange a child. We tried everything to solve the problem. My client bought a witness, she insisted that the witness was lying. We demanded that they meet in a public place, but she insisted that she still shouted to her. Finally, my client attached the video camera to the car's dash and directed it to the exchange point. The video clearly showed that he kindly and carefully returns the children from the weekend visit. The following week I complained of anger and anger from her attorney about requiring a protective order to protect my poor customers from dangerous demons of customers. As I asked what he was pointing to, he told me that my client orally abused his clients verbally during weekend exchanges.
I suggested that he finally walk and he checked his email and call me back. About 30 minutes later, I received a foolish phone that I never mind. His e-mail video clearly showed to him that he is the truth, it was not his client.
8. Kill them by kindness
On the other side of the video idea is the idea that your spouse is recording all the conversations you have. No one knows how to press your button faster than your spouse. They will try to turn you into a speech of spoken words in a sweet way to take advantage of the recording.
So kill them with kindness. Do not give them what they want. It is sweet as they are afraid to help your affair and play the record feared to hurt them.
7. Being a good parent, not using your child as a spy
Being a parent to dig your kids after every visit is incredibly attractive. You are just saying that you know what is going on there. Or are you afraid of harmful things that your spouse may reveal your child.
Children are not stupid. They know when they are explored and can understand how to utilize them. To make matters worse, it will come back to pick you up. Your spouse knows about it and is accused of alienating your child's affection from your spouse. The information you get is simply worthless.
6. Do not make a big jerk
Once I had a potential client come and tried to hire me to represent him for divorce. His one provision was that we had to find a process server to send divorce documents on Christmas morning. She suddenly had a Christmas child. And he was struggling about it. I wanted to hire someone to tell her HO HO on Saturday clothed Christmas morning.
I did not do such a case. If he drops it, I am sure that the judge blew up on his face when he heard about it.
5. Collection of finances
I argue money when I am not controversial to my children. Knowledge is power. If you can collect financial statements, you can compare them, compared with what you provide, unless you know that there are no counterparts in particular. We can see that we are hiding assets in this way, especially for self-employed persons. If you catch someone hiding assets, the judges will only give them to you, not to divide them between you and your spouse.
4. Submit your tax on time
Not on time, correctly. I am not a tax expert and this is not legal tax advice, but if you are engaged in divorce and live separately you can usually request a discount that you can not charge. Please consult with your tax expert as soon as possible to submit. If you have a tax return at hand, you do not have to worry about at least you blowing it. Of course, you should not spend it until the divorce is over.
Even if you do not need to propose to pay children's help.
If another person leaves with the child, give me some money to help. Especially if you have your own income and do not really need your help, there is not much need. This is a wonderful way to confuse your spouse's attorney. Because one of our favorite arguments for making a judge is "I am watching whether the opponent is a bad person / girl! My client does not help them with it I gave you a "dime". It is wonderful to knock out their feet before they discuss them. It is even better if you do not care to say that the other side gave lawyers money and that the lawyers do not even pay you the standard discussion. You can make them look foolish in a short time. Do not do it to me!
2. Have the best possible time with your children
You can work with your children regardless of your situation, spending your work, home, or as much time as possible. Do not spend your spouse's life through your children. Please do not park in front of TV and vegetables. Make real memories with your children and spend them in real time. this is,
Your child needs it! They are not seeking divorce and therefore should not receive poor treatment!
Your spouse will hate it. They wonder what you are doing, it makes them crazy and they can not complain.
3. Divorce and children are not a single fight. It is a war consisting of small battles cooked for years. We need to make progress now by showing that we love our children as much as possible. When making bonds, when they are adults, looking back on divorce, it will not be painful.
1. Live full and happy life
Absolute best vengeance is a life that lives well. Divorce please do not destroy you. You will not miss the opportunity to forget it or learn from mistakes, but destroy what is left in your life and do not stay it until you destroy it. Please do not move too fast. Do not make a big decision right after divorce, but do something that makes you happy. Please find joy. If for some reason you feel like you need revenge for your former spouse, the best way to take it is to show a lacking one by sending a wonderful life.
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