I am quite familiar with this role. It is one of the roles that lost children and I played. So I really did not have this on Google. According to Claudia Black, Phd, the Prater typically shows the following advantages.
Prater appreciates, gives, and gives a nice smile to a caring, considerate, empathic, good listener, other people.
1. Caring and caring: I was a designated family caregiver who took care of my mother when I was in the final illness, was a temporary caregiver for my aunt and had the power of a lawyer for another thing . Beyond that, I became a person who manages feelings other than my own feelings. As an adult, the ability to analyze the behavior and feelings of everyone has become art form in most cases.
2, Empathy: The Placater is a repository of everyone's scratching emotions. In life, this may be beneficial. How many mental health experts will come from this background?
3. A good listener: I have been in the support group of the church I attended at that time. At the last meeting, we all talked about the strengths. Mine was the role of the listener. How I hate it! Why I could never leave that role!
4. Sensitive to others: Sensitive to others can be mixed bags. Losing oneself with the sensitivity to others may not touch your feelings, goals, and desires of life.
5. Awarding: Church committees and volunteer services probably have placards where perhaps the greatest desire is useful.
6. I have a wonderful smile. Our main goal of life is wonderful, a nice smile is almost permanent.
Claudia Black defines the shortcomings of placater as follows.
1. Can not receive: deny personal needs, can not receive, high tolerance to inappropriate behavior, strong fear of anger and conflict, unpleasant guilt feelings.
We began to admit that it is difficult for me to be on the receiving side.
2. Denying personal needs: We are adept at meeting other people. We can not identify ourselves.
3. High tolerance to inappropriate behavior. We are attracted by unusual behavior from others and will be able to endure.
4. Strong fear of anger and conflict: I have memories of being afraid of anger expressed by family and friends. If somebody got angry with me, the world felt like collapsing.
5. False guilt: If we do not have anything to trigger guilt, Plakar will feel guilty and commit something.
7. Anxiety: This can occur in dozens of ways from fear of height to fear of the bridge, social phobia, and fear of becoming crazy.
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