Happiness is a lack of judgment.
If you can not find your favorite food or service, will you be disappointed when going to an expensive restaurant? Think about when your best friend does not do what he does. Because these expectations are not satisfied, these events and similar events may make you disappoint. This can cause you unhappiness and in some cases can cause anger and frustration. The more unrealistic expectations, the more disappointed you are. By creating predictions, you may be the truth, and create reality in your heart that may not be.
It is important to understand why you develop unrealistic expectations that lead to disappointment. In other words, what is the underlying reason for evoking consciously or unconsciously unrealistic expectations to you?
Individuals deal with dangerous consequences in various ways. You are dealing with an uncertain and dangerous exit if you are not sure that you will receive the next promotion at your company, or if you do not know what the partner really loves you or what you have. You nurture your expectations when results are concerned. In other words, expectation of risk is predicted, mainly expectation is built up. If you know that you will receive the next promotion, you know the result, so you will not create a feeling for it. But if you do not know whether you get publicity, you tend to produce expectations. Form expectations based on available information, previous experiences, or biased results.
The disappointment theory proposed by Bell (1985) and Looms and Sugden (1986) considers poor results in actual experience based on expectation. The basic proposition of the disappointment theory is to evaluate the outcome of the dangerous situation compared to the expectation the individual had anticipated about the situation. (If you want to learn more about this theory, please refer to the research paper by Philippe Delquié of the European Institute of Business Administration of INSEAD.) Individuals will be disappointed if incomes are less than expected. Therefore, if your actual experience is inferior to your predicted notice and expectation, you will be disappointed. This makes you feel sorrow and misfortune.
(Note: To further investigate discrimination dynamics based on uncertain outcome, pay attention to several decision models, pay value and concerns, focus on rational analysis and logical viewpoint A reliable and rigorous model that covers the first element and provides a prescriptive way to handle value The theory to provide rational understanding and logic to determinism.
To solve your disappointment, you avoid expectations and you can take what your life offers to you at your face. In addition, we need to identify the motivating factors for creating unrealistic expectations. Let's take a look at each of these two central factors about disappointment.
Before I can proceed further, I need to make a clear distinction Static expectation This leads to disappointment, dynamic expectation can be utilized to form one action. If expectations are based on an unrealistic perspective on the situation or individual, it ends up in disappointment. The anticipation of this type is static and built without valid information or knowledge. For example, your friend will invite you to the party. But, without fundamental and relevant information on the parties, we expect you to be impressive. You create expectations without proper and valid data. Static expectations could be based on some limited information, past experience, insufficient information. Logically it was not possible to extrapolate as a general rule. Therefore, the static expectation that is our focus in this article is easy to disappoint you. Conversely, dynamic expectations not only shape your actions but also influence the actions of counterparts and may change
A Dynamic expectation It is built on valid data. It is a process in which both you and your subject are actively involved. For example, if you think that your daughter is smart based on your knowledge about her. According to this belief, you tend to hear her opinion and evaluate her opinion on her related issues. You will not break her in the middle of her conversation I remember her whether she is wrong or not sure. On the contrary, for her real respect, you wait until she finishes her words before adding something. You avoid calling her "stupid" or other false ruined label. I introduce her to your friends as your smart girl and have real pride that shines in your eyes and words. Due to your active and dynamic interaction, you can shape her behavior while acting accordingly. Expectations of this type can cause changes in behavior of subjects and cause it. This type of expectation is actually a form of dynamic adjustment process. Through your active participation with your daughter, you are forcing aggressive behavior to her. Here, dynamic expectation can shape her with your actions and reality. This is a powerful concept that can change your fate and be responsible for your life. Through appropriate and dynamic spiritual mapping, you can achieve your goal and become a happy and successful individual. Future articles will explain this topic in more detail and explain how to use dynamic expectation concepts to form actions and make changes and realize happiness.
Disappointment is your natural reaction. Especially, I feel disappointed and injured for those who are most valuable and part of your life. You must distinguish between disappointment and disappointing behavior such as betrayal of your trust. To explain this distinction, I remembered the painful story that happened to one of my dear friends.
My friend was very close to his brother. He literally supported his whole life, living, employment, additional funds, and what he has. He has all his lawyers on finance to his brother, from business requirements to travel frequently, including bank accounts and several investments including several real estate. Everything was going well. But recently, he learned that his brother forged the signature and withdrew most of the funds. Almost everything was in the bank account. He also borrowed additional funds from other funding sources such as real estate for my friends. Soon, he learned of this terrible fact, he got into an emotional shock and trauma. I could not bear it for him, but his first reaction was negative. It was too big to bear the emotional result. At first, my friend thought that there must be an honest mistake. Finally, he realized that his "best friend" stabbed him on his back. You can imagine what emotional destruction this event did. He passed the denial step, but occasionally took him to let him register ugly real estate in his heart. According to my friend, he was rather depressed. He was not too concerned about his financial loss. However, he felt his brother was lost. This event surprised me that I had to question all my beliefs and values about my family and the surrounding people. He thought of himself if the brother could betray him without any excuse or obvious reason.
What happened to my dear friend is an example of betrayal of his trust and is not as expected. Trust is obtained. Earn your friends and trust your systematic behavior. Naturally, you will be disappointed and hurt when your trust is betrayed. This type of expectation is a by-product of trust violation. Do not keep promises. Like other emotional acts, I hurt your emotional and physical well-being.
The next section suggests two ways to help minimize the negative impact of static expectations in your life and to live a happy life. In addition, I will review the underlying elements that you may be tempted to produce static expectations. Knowing that you know the underlying reasons helps to avoid the temptation to build unrealistic and unfounded expectations that could only lead to your disappointment and sorrow.
live your life
According to Idily Shah, Sufi's master "Apricot expected is never sweet when it reaches his mouth" (Magical Monastery). Taste it with your mouth. Expectations are different from real estate. Submit it to your life and accept it as it is. This will help you prevent building unrealistic expectations and stopping possible decisions. Please be aware that this is not a passive submission but an active acceptance of reality. It appreciates your life highly.
Submission is the key to a peaceful and peaceful life. Please think that you face problems both in life, in the workplace and in the workplace. You can choose to fight it, this makes you angry and upset. By doing so, your brain stops functioning and your anger happens. You can not think and you can not find a viable solution. Your negative emotions may exhaust your mental and physical energy you can not think straight. This approach does not appear to be productive. In other words, by weakening your anger and futile battle and energy training battle, you are weakening your spiritual power and losing battle. Conversely, accept whatever it accepts and pass the refusal phase, you can tackle the problem at hand, perhaps a better solution will be born. This type of submission is not passive, but a better logical way to optimize energy to deal with everyday life challenges. This approach should make your life more pleasant and bring happiness to you, your family, your friends circle. As the old adage advances, "We can not change the cards we dealt only by playing hands" Learn to obey your life, regardless of anything so far Accept it, you can maximize what you have. Persian mysterious great poet expresses it very beautifully. Everything sublimed from "friends" is a blessing. You will obey your life and learn to enjoy it as it is.
Give the opportunity a chance!
Most of us have a prejudice about our life. If it is not submitted to your life as is, you plan your internal duality to your surroundings, leading to a constant depression with your reality. Indeed, it could lead to a tired and tired lifestyle. But if you merely immersed in life and just accepted what you would come towards with a positive attitude and submit it. You can achieve a calm and happy condition. It is wonderful to have opportunities work for you, not committing your wishes.
I remembered the story in Sufis. The man complained that he was not fortunate because he never won the lottery. Someone asked him, how many times did you purchase the lottery? The man did not answer. Many people expect to acquire without missing the opportunity without risk. Let yourselves obey your life and bless you for it to leverage your best talent and ability to nourish your life.
Identify the need for underlining
What is your reason? Why do you like to create expectations, or are you more nervous? Are you missing something in your life? Do you want your partner to behave differently? Do you want to do different work? Do your friends pay more attention or like to handle you differently? As you can see, all these questions refer to something you might miss in your life. In other words, you can create expectations based on your wishes. By building your expectations, I will tell you what you like about your life. For example, your girlfriend is not a person to go out. But when you go to the party, you disappoint her. Probably happy opportunities end with discussion and discussion. You simply hope that she will be a comfortable person not to pretend or pretend to be her. To solve your problem with your girlfriend, you need to know her and respect her as who she is. If an ongoing problem with her occurs on the other side of your life, you may need to reconsider who she is and whether she is compatible with you. Please accept and respect what she is and not cast her unrealistic expectations.
Happiness exists when there is no judgment. Creating static expectations leads to disappointment and causes misfortune. To be happy and happy, please build unrealistic and static expectations and welcome that as it is.
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