All human beings of the most basic level are managed by deep primitive instincts like battle or flight responses, in contrast to the gifts of emotion and self-recognition, and conflict. In the face of potentially dangerous and difficult situations, most people choose to take their position or escape. When wild animals face in the jungle and the forest, this is a useful and important instinct to react. But when you face a personal crisis with your spouse or other family members it is not necessarily the ideal way to always handle it. Under such circumstances it is important to remember that there are two or more choices. You can fight literally, or by divorce. You can escape (by ignoring the problem or by refusing to handle it). Egypt, you can mediate.
It is not instinctive
Because mediation is not an instinctive response, it is often a difficult decision to make between people with conflict. We often punish partners or think away from the problem, but rather than solving the problem of trained intermediary professionals and seeking cooperative solutions to the problem, a more civilized approach goes beyond instinct Thought. This is pretty difficult as our instinctive reaction is the most honest and ordinary one. However, as we are now living in civilization, not in the wilderness, instinct is often more destructive than beneficial one.
Leave behind battle and flight
But simply agreeing to pursue mediation is not enough. Some people simply use mediation as a new battleground for combat. It is still in the battle or battle of correspondence of flight. Arbitration uses a simpler and more sophisticated approach to resolve conflicts. It is that the parties stand behind, concentrating on cooperative solutions, refraining from complaining or attacking each other.
In the midst of the process, people are often swept in a hurry of emotions and can turn their combat or flying instincts into mediators. They are able to communicate anger and frustration to neutral third parties and cause the process to fail. An important part of a successful brokerage is understanding our instincts and how they often dominate our lives. The first instinctive reaction is something we can not avoid. When this situation occurs, we need them to run the course, take a deep breath and pursue a more civilized behavior course.
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